Learning to LOVE your natural hair
I've have seen several post and heard several comments from woman who just can't embrace their natural hair. Some have done a big chop, while others are transitioning. I hear everything from 'I don't like my curl pattern' to 'I just can't deal with this nappiness' to 'It's just too much work'. I've even had a few approach me with, 'I think I'm going back to a relaxer' *takes a deep breath*
Ladies, ladies, ladies...JUST STOP IT!!! Excuse me for a moment while I climb onto this soapbox.
I am a self proclaimed natural hair advocate. I, personally, think that the hair that grows naturally out of your scalp is so beautiful. Whether you have super tight kinky thick curls or loose fine wispy curls, no matter your texture, it is yours! What you were born with, YOURS!!
As naturals, you have got to get your mind right when dealing with your hair. You are not going to last if you are looking to achieve a different curl pattern from your own, I've said this before. Yes, they make products that help stretch and define your curls. Yes, you can do styles that give you a different curl pattern, but you CAN NOT be Kimberly Elise and get a Tracy Ellis Ross look! Sorry...
Look in the mirror and learn to love what you see.
I may be at fault here for assuming that all natural woman would have a certain appreciation for all hair textures, declaring that the way we were born is beautiful. Instead a lot are feeling like you have to have a certain hair type to wear it naturally and that just isn't the case.
Now that whole 'It's too much work' thing is another post, but I will say the maintenance of natural hair can be time consuming. You can't just run a comb through it, wrap it and go about your business. The detangling process is a task with in itself. Once again, you have to get your mind right. Figure out what you are capable of doing and get a "regular" routine in place that fits your schedule.
Long story short here ladies...
Your natural hair is the hair that grows out of your scalp. It's part of your character, who you are. It's okay to admire other textures, but don't covet it. There is so much you can do to your hair. One positive connotation of ALL natural hair is its versatility. Naturals have the pick of the liter when choosing hair styles. Twists, braids, thermal styles, sew ins...Oh don't get me started!! Don't be afraid to try something new...Try it, you might like it!! There you have it in a nut shell. God created you, hair included! What you see is what you get, so learn to love it!
I may be at fault here for assuming that all natural woman would have a certain appreciation for all hair textures, declaring that the way we were born is beautiful. Instead a lot are feeling like you have to have a certain hair type to wear it naturally and that just isn't the case.
Now that whole 'It's too much work' thing is another post, but I will say the maintenance of natural hair can be time consuming. You can't just run a comb through it, wrap it and go about your business. The detangling process is a task with in itself. Once again, you have to get your mind right. Figure out what you are capable of doing and get a "regular" routine in place that fits your schedule.
Long story short here ladies...
Your natural hair is the hair that grows out of your scalp. It's part of your character, who you are. It's okay to admire other textures, but don't covet it. There is so much you can do to your hair. One positive connotation of ALL natural hair is its versatility. Naturals have the pick of the liter when choosing hair styles. Twists, braids, thermal styles, sew ins...Oh don't get me started!! Don't be afraid to try something new...Try it, you might like it!! There you have it in a nut shell. God created you, hair included! What you see is what you get, so learn to love it!
